What kind of evaluation do you accept for yourself?
I watched the movie 'Peace, Love and Misunderstanding' yesterday and I am surprised that I have not watched it before. There are different interesting dynamics in there, but what came up several times after I watched it was the interaction between two Characters Zoe and Cole. Basically, Zoe meets this guy Cole and they feel attracted to each other, but Zoe has a lot of self-concepts about what kind of guy she wants to date, she is vegetarian, she is all about protecting animals and so on. And Cole is the complete opposite of her beliefs and self-concepts (Jesus knows who we need to meet for healing). He smokes (Zoe has judgements about that as well), he is a butcher which is the main reason (seemingly) why Zoe holds back. It's interesting how we use these kinds of beliefs as an excuse to cover up our fear of love. The line that touched me was this: "Zoe: -Do you, uh, think I'm violent with you? Closed off? Defensive? Cole: -Sometimes. Zoe: -But you're here. ...